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I’m reading “all about love” by bell hooks in Bali. Initially, I didn’t highlight in the book, because I planned to give it away to make more space in my backpack.
However, hooks’s ideas about defining love, love ethic, and love in community, landed her book on my shelf of “Books that changed my life.”1
This is my Moxie Moment. Adding more love to my bookshelf and life.
Moxie Coaching Challenge. Three ways to love.
1. Define love.
In her book, hooks points out that “love” is often defined with a framework of a romantic relationship. When I googled “definition of love” she was right. Most of what popped up was connected to romantic love.
I paused and thought about how I often ask friends and clients to define success, self-care, and power, but I’ve never thought about defining love.
What is love?
I remember giggling at my friend’s wedding while reading that “love is a gong.” Growing up in American society, love was something to earn, chase, or be lucky in.
Now, love is like the Japanese practice of Kintsugi: filling in the breaks with gold.
As an educator, speaker, changemaker, and traveler, I look for cracks in people. Places that need love. And I fill it in. To me, that is love.
Just like “kintsugi often makes the repaired piece even more beautiful than the original, revitalizing it with a new look and giving it a second life,” love does too.
What did “love” mean to you growing up? How would you define love now?
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2. Simply love.
“Living simply makes loving simple.” bell hooks
To me, this is my life.
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